The Inconvenient Truths of Change

Transformation is a sexy word. It is used to sell products under the pretence of lifestyle change as an aid for the journey of achieving our “best self”. The reality, however, can be quite a different picture. What the quick ‘before and after’ pictures fail to present is the internal questioning, self-doubt and the difficulties of birthing a new neurological (and behavioural) pattern of change. 

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Kimberley Carder
The 3 Subtle Benefits of Therapy

There are many benefits to therapy, sitting with a health-care and psychological professional but there are also elements of therapy which help create the therapeutic alliance and distinguish it from supportive friendships.

It’s also important to address the big obvious benefit of therapy - If you’re not in therapy, you’re working out your past traumas and emotional baggage in your intimate relationships, family and colleagues sometimes to the point of exhaustion, heartbreak and breakdown.

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Kimberley Carder
4 Steps to Create Change

You went for weeks, months or perhaps years stuck in a rut you didn’t even realise you were in. Enter an image of a hamster wheel, but replace the wheel of fun with symptoms of anxiety and depression - sleepless nights, rumination, finger biting, weight loss/gain, severed relationships. The rut or habits you were doing started off fun but it has gotten to a point where enough is enough.

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Kimberley Carder
How Your Biases Construct Your Reality

“We see things not as they are, we see things as we are”- Anais Nin. Wired into our psyche are firm beliefs (biases) of the world that we live in, they are the foundation of our perception of reality. On last check there are over 170 different cognitive biases. Our biases exist to help when there’s too much information for us to process, we need to act quickly, there’s a lot of sensory input and there’s not enough meaning. For brevity, this article will focus on the power and how to manage confirmation bias.

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Kimberley Carder
5 Ways to Support your Mental Health

Our current health model is reactive rather than preventative. The notion that many health issues can be prevented through daily habits and lifestyle changes isn’t exclusive to physical health. The more preventative measures you take, the more equipped your coping skills are for when stress levels reach critical points.

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Kimberley Carder
Living in Denial

Often in clinical treatment there has been a rupture leading to a forced confrontation of reality. However outside of the treatment room and in relationships it can feel like a losing battle supporting someone through their periods of denial. In the long-run, denial doesn’t win against reality. Eventually reality catches up with people, either through an individual’s own realizations or an event which forces the wake-up call. Denial’s unfortunate next of kin is typically blame, resulting in black-and-white thinking and a whole myriad of unhelpful thought patterns.

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Kimberley Carder
Understanding Anxiety

There is significant difference between feeling anxious versus having a diagnosable anxiety disorder. Clinical anxiety is starts to impact daily functioning to the point where you will no longer do certain activities; a constant worry that plagues your day, avoiding social interaction for fear of judgement, recurring nightmares or panic attacks.

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Kimberley Carder